I’ve answered this before…still getting the question.

Ah well….

I‘ve been laughing at the new Taylor Swift song “Anti-Hero”. “It’s me” Especially when I get the same kind of feedback. We must be connected on a soul level.

𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒆𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒕 𝒊𝒔….

There’s an interesting conversation circulating around another conversation on one of my former posts:

𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝑣𝑎𝑠𝑡 𝑚𝑎𝑗𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑜𝑓 𝑤𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑛 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑙𝑜𝑜𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑎 “𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑢𝑝” ＆ “𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑦𝑙𝑒” 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦 𝑑𝑜𝑛’𝑡 𝑔𝑒𝑡 𝑖𝑡, 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑦 𝑑𝑜𝑛’𝑡 𝑔𝑜 𝑜𝑛 𝑎𝑑𝑑𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑑𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑠 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑚𝑒𝑛．

𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝑯𝑨𝑽𝑬 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒔𝒆𝒙 𝒂𝒈𝒂𝒊𝒏 𝒊𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒑𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒂𝒕 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒊𝒔𝒔𝒖𝒆𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑!

This information absolutely ticked me off the first time I heard it….because I didn’t want to. There was too much resentment & it felt like a bow down & a reward for him that he in no way deserved in my opinion. So I didn’t. So we didn’t. So it ended.

𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝒅𝒐 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒊𝒇 𝒉𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆𝒔 𝒎𝒆 & 𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒅?

Well….the short answer is, he’s not trying to play!

That can kind of hit you sideways if you’re accustomed to the opposite. You just have to make the mental & emotional adjustment.

Bruh …. No “healed woman“ is going to be down for, or fall for toxic behavior & antics. They just won’t. Thankfully, most men speak it or show it in some way, so detection isn’t difficult. The unhealed woman will ignore it & move forward anyway. It’s not that she didn’t pick up on it.

𝐎𝐤𝐚𝐲 𝐋𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐞𝐬! 𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐢𝐦!

Since I got divorced, & crashed out a couple of other relationships, I‘ve developed a little litmus test to keep myself from being bamboozled!

So, if you’re trying to figure out if your heart is actually in it or not…Give this a shot!

This is for the fellas out there in the dating world trying to level up with a woman!

Many of you want to express sentimental feelings or emotions, but have been taught it’s wrong or have a huge fear of rejection, so it’s paralyzing for you to move things forward in relationships or level them up!

If you permit me to assist, I will be glad to!