Men Operate on a Win / Lose Principle

𝑴𝒆𝒏 𝒐𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝑾𝒊𝒏 / 𝑳𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒑𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒄𝒊𝒑𝒍𝒆

I was seriously going to try & write something so nice & soft about female energy….it ain’t coming, because a dude in a BIG truck wouldn’t let me in where some construction was at 7:30am this morning. I ain’t over it & I’m all blocked up.

I got low vibrational when I ended up directly behind him & put up sign language on both hands. He was absolutely losing his $h!t in his own car looking at me in his rear view mirror.

Anyway….let me explain where communication & expectations went awry here.

So, this Win / Lose principle thing for Men…. This is how they operate & compete in the world. They feel absolutely amazing if they annihilate their friends in competitive sports, work…whatever. This is VERY okay in Man World. As long as they each take care of themselves…it’s all good.

We’re collaborative in Woman World. Unless we’ve spent an extended time In our Masculine energy, we wouldn’t feel good if we won an audition or something our friend didn’t. We’d feel really bad for the friend & guilty for winning. Many of us would turn around & help her strategize how to get the audition the next time. We take care of everyone else first 𝑢𝑠𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 & that’s 𝑚𝑜𝑠𝑡𝑙𝑦 satisfying for us.

So back to Mr. Truck this morning. EVERYONE was doing a one for one exchange letting people in. NOT Mr. Truck though. He was trying so hard to make SURE I couldn’t get over & there was NO space. So I motioned I wanted to get in & he bumpered up to the car in front of him..mouthing something The next car let me in behind him & I flipped him off with both hands.

Even while I was doing it….I knew exactly why I was angry & exactly why he was behaving the way he was, which, you know…lead me to do what I did.

This is why relationships go sideways. We aren’t made the same. We aren’t even playing by the same rules or programmed to do so. We just have to accept that we aren’t wired the same way.

The good thing is, when men find “The one”, catch feelings, or have caught feelings, their selfishness changes. They start to care about her as much as themselves. They become selfish for those they love & protect them.