What “I’ve Been Busy” REALLY Means

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 "𝐈’𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐁𝐮𝐬𝐲" 𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐘 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐬!

I was listening to Derrick Jaxn today, and he was spilling the tea, and giving the truth on what "I've been busy" actually means when a man says it.

1) 𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂 𝒑𝒓𝒊𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒚. 𝑷𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒐𝒅.

It could also mean relationships aren't a priority as well...either way, that might not add up to being on the same page for a woman. For whatever reason a relationship isn't a goal for him at that time. Men make what's important to them, a priority. They just do.

2) 𝑯𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒅 𝒏𝒐 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒖𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒈𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆.

𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑠 𝑎 𝑠𝑖𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑤ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 ℎ𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑒𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢， ＆𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑛 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢．

There are a few reasons for this one. One is that he might just not have a purpose himself, and he's impulsively living moment to moment without any plan at all. Second, is he might not emotionally know how to integrate a woman in his life. Third, is he knows you aren't "the one" and you're a placeholder while he builds himself up or finds "the one" He might like you a lot, but you aren't the one. You're the placeholder for "the one" If you're not his "safe place" or where he seeks to "recharge", you're not "the one." He knows this.

3) 𝑯𝒆’𝒔 𝒌𝒆𝒆𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒉𝒆 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘𝒔 𝒉𝒆’𝒔 𝒅𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒈.

There's shame and or ego here. He could have another family, wife, girlfriend, children, financial problems or something he knows isn't appropriate, but he wants to keep you as a placeholder until he figures it out.

4) 𝑯𝒆’𝒔 𝒐𝒏 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒐𝒖𝒕, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒆’𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒆 𝒃𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅-𝒄𝒓𝒖𝒎𝒃𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖.

He'll start pulling back conversations, phone calls, texts, because he's soft launching his exit to not deal with "your drama." (ie questions & lie detector) He wants to back out leaving the bridge in place or the door open. He doesn't want to lose you, and he doesn't want to secure a place for you in his life either.

Keep all this in mind when you’re seeing red flags, and then you start to hear, "I’ve been busy" a whole bunch suddenly. It’s code for other things, and you’ll have to make some difficult choices and ask hard questions.