Nothing Positive Can Grow in Toxicity!
𝙉𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙤𝙭𝙞𝙘𝙞𝙩𝙮 !
I was running around this morning, getting my day on with this on my mind and BAM ! Andy Frisella put out an email this morning on EXACTLY what I was thinking!
“You have zero obligation to maintain the relationships you have with negative people...
Zero.
I don't give a f＠ck who they are.
If you truly want to become great in life...
This is something you need to take very literally.
The longer you keep these relationships around...
The longer you'll keep yourself from progressing.
Becoming great is hard enough without getting your energy sucked out of you by people who are determined to lose.
Leave them behind.
It’s a requirement.“ － 𝐴𝑛𝑑𝑦 𝐹𝑟𝑖𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑎
𝑇ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝𝑠 𝑤𝑒 ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑛 𝑡𝑜 𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑓 𝑓𝑒𝑎𝑟 ＆ 𝑜𝑏𝑙𝑖𝑔𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑤𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑑𝑢𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑜𝑐𝑖𝑒𝑡𝑦 𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑜𝑐𝑖𝑒𝑡𝑎𝑙 𝑛𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑠．
𝐵𝑒𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑓𝑖𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑑𝑖𝑣𝑜𝑟𝑐𝑒， 𝐼 ℎ𝑎𝑑 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑏𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑦 𝑏𝑒𝑒𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑖𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑎𝑡 𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑡 5 𝑦𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑛 𝑖𝑡， 𝑤ℎ𝑖𝑐ℎ 𝑖𝑠 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑦 𝑡𝑦𝑝𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑙 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑤𝑜𝑚𝑎𝑛． 𝐼 𝑤𝑎𝑠 𝑛𝑜 𝑑𝑖𝑓𝑓𝑒𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑡！
I was afraid of going to hell, and was afraid of what friends & family would say. I was in the middle of a 90 day coaching program, & my coach at the time, Marci Lock snatched me up on an accountability call, got really direct, & said, "Do you really think that's what God wants for you!??? A loveless, sexless, marriage? That's f@cking Bull $hit ! You're drinking every day, where do you think that's headed? You think that's what God wants for you?!! That's a bull $hit story you're telling yourself!"
𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘰𝘯 ＆ 𝘨𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘵 𝘨𝘰！
I wasn't in a healthy place & I wasn't going to be successful in any area of my life continuing as I was. There was no way around the wall of resentment I had in my marriage. I couldn't conceive of a way to get around it, over it, through it, or knock it down.
It wasn't easy or without fear….I filed. Nothing was going to grow as a couple, or for my kids if I stayed…& I was drinking 2 bottles of Riesling or Moscato a day at that point. I sure wasn’t going to lose weight & my alcohol tolerance was just getting higher and I was starting to worry my neighbors were judging my recycling bin! The marriage had to be over or I was going to be!
This isn’t just about marriage. It can be relationships with parents, siblings & other family members. It can be about friends & coworkers.
Work environments can be toxic
Friends can be “frenemies” … you know the ones
Family can sometimes hang on to who you were, create labels to keep you down or make sure you stay in the bucket of crabs with them!
These aren’t relationships of growth. They are low vibrational & toxic.
There are points in life and times where you are called to evaluate what you are allowing & entertaining in it.
𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙜𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙙𝙮𝙞𝙣𝙜
𝙒𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙞𝙨 𝙞𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪?
