Ghosting is an Accepted Form of Breakup Now

Relationships and Dating
Written By Tanja Vargo

Originally written 02/16/2023

𝑰 π’˜π’‚π’” π’π’Šπ’”π’•π’†π’π’Šπ’π’ˆ 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 π’“π’‚π’…π’Šπ’ π’Šπ’ 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒓 π’•π’‰π’Šπ’” π’Žπ’π’“π’π’Šπ’π’ˆ & π’˜π’‰π’‚π’• 𝑰 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒅 π’Žπ’‚π’…π’† π’Žπ’† π’˜π’‚π’π’• 𝒕𝒐 π’ƒπ’‚π’π’ˆ π’Žπ’š 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 π’”π’•π’†π’†π’“π’Šπ’π’ˆ π’˜π’‰π’†π’†π’!

You know when you have a bunch of different connecting strands of Christmas lights & you know and understand what they all are, how they work, AND you even technically know how they’re going to look. BUT! It takes plugging them in, or flipping a switch to give you that β€œAH!!!” Grizwald moment!

104 KRBE was discussing the dating scene in #Houston #Texas & in general this morning!

𝐷𝑖𝑑 π‘¦π‘œπ‘’ π‘˜π‘›π‘œπ‘€β€¦π‘‘β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ β€œπΊβ„Žπ‘œπ‘ π‘‘π‘–π‘›π‘”β€ 𝑖𝑠 π‘Ž 𝑀𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑙𝑦 π‘Žπ‘π‘π‘’π‘π‘‘π‘’π‘‘ π‘“π‘œπ‘Ÿπ‘š π‘œπ‘“ π‘π‘Ÿπ‘’π‘Žπ‘˜π‘’π‘ π‘›π‘œπ‘€οΌŸ

π–π‘π’π¬π€πžπ² π“πšπ§π π¨ 𝐅𝐨𝐱𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐭 !

Do you know what β€œsneaky links” are?

Stay tuned ! Also, just be prepared….

I wish it wasn’t the Gen Xers calling in, but that’s who was being interviewed this morning!

A woman called in & said she has been dating for 4 years & has been on 2-3 dates that were actual dates. (All the callers are on dating apps.)

Me: uh oh….this sounds familiar & scary accurate

When asked what she thought was going on she said, β€œWell, I’m looking for Consistency, Communication, & Connection and it just doesn’t exist anymore. Men can turn to sneaky links at the first sign of not getting what they want instantly & never have to deal with actual rejection”

𝐬𝐧𝐞𝐚𝐀𝐲 π₯𝐒𝐧𝐀:

π‘Ž π‘ π‘›π‘’π‘Žπ‘˜π‘¦ π‘™π‘–π‘›π‘˜ π‘π‘Žπ‘› 𝑏𝑒 π‘Ž 𝑠𝑒π‘₯π‘’π‘Žπ‘™ π‘œπ‘Ÿ π‘›π‘œπ‘›οΌπ‘ π‘’π‘₯π‘’π‘Žπ‘™ 𝑒π‘₯π‘π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘–π‘’π‘›π‘π‘’ π‘‘β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ π‘›π‘œπ‘π‘œπ‘‘π‘¦ π‘˜π‘›π‘œπ‘€π‘  π‘Žπ‘π‘œπ‘’π‘‘οΌŽ(𝐼𝑑 π‘’π‘ π‘’π‘Žπ‘™π‘™π‘¦ 𝑖𝑠 π‘Ž 𝑠𝑒π‘₯π‘’π‘Žπ‘™ 𝑒π‘₯π‘π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘–π‘’π‘›π‘π‘’οΌ‰

Me: M@ther F@cker !

I knew this….but the damn lights weren’t ALL THE WAY ON.

So a gentleman comes on & he basically agrees with what the previous woman says & was like, β€œYeah… the idea is to find the one, BUT….you honestly just don’t have to put up with the slightest bit of drama anymore, you can just move on.

Me: * jaw completely dropped *

Then they asked, so what are you doing now, what do you have going on for yourself now? The guy says, β€œMe? Oh my girl is in Dallas!”

Me: * just about pees my pants laughing *

Yeah Bruh….I quit shopping in Houston too!



So what we’re dealing with isn’t just the millennials anymore…it’s everyone!

Men don’t have to hunt anymore. They also have zero need to build emotional muscles. They don’t have to deal with rejection. They don’t have to learn to be consistent, communicate, or how to connect!

If the savvy guy is gonna win in the future, he will learn these authentic β€œhuman” skills. The guy who wins in the future, will be the one with the most authentic emotional qualities!

20-30 years ago, they just had to be the man who β€œknew how to dance” !

Because I’m a very emotionally open person, I’d have to change, completely, to function in today’s dating world. I refuse to be someone’s toy or a receptacle for their pain. I’m also not going to do the work for you & walk into your mouth β€œLion”.

To the ladies….I’m just saying….#Toys not boys Cut them off until they act right. This mess has gotten ridiculous. Force them back onto prostitutes & their right hand until they grow up & get a clue again. Don’t make it so easy.

Tanja Vargo
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