Emotional Intelligence is Sexy Not Weak

𝙇𝙚𝙩’𝙨 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙗𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚.

I was just having a conversation with a friend of mine. He told me he was in a constant search for someone for me.

I was like “Well, the unfortunate thing is that my emotional intelligence is like an eight-lane superhighway, and theirs is like a broken trike on a dirt road.”

He laughed & told me it didn’t matter how many times he read that message, it made him laugh. He was like “yeah… I’m just a monkey clanging cymbals over here.” (And sent me a meme of that.)

I jokingly told him I had pretty much likened much of his gender to that, & at the same time was like, “God, this is what you want us to follow? Imma be single for a minute longer.”

A lot of the men I speak to have read the same books as me, have the same mentors, follow the same people & experienced the same training….and yet…. “Broken trike on a dirt road”

I keep entertaining them at the accountability level many of them coach on and have been coached at. You’d be surprised at how they attempt to approach their personal lives the opposite of my expectation & our training.

Their mentors don’t coach it.
The books they’ve read don’t coach it.
They don’t coach it themselves.

So, when I’m confronted by the counterintuitive behavior, I’m very stunned & taken back by these “SuperMen.” Many are on pulpits “leading by example “ and I have my head cocked to the side going, “Seriously?”

They are speaking on how men have become weak, & shoot off examples of what women will follow, and I’m seriously just waiting for them to find their own testosterone as I’m flipping through Netflix on the weekend.

It’s disappointing. I’m doing the woman thing & they aren’t doing “the man thing”. For whatever reason.

I don’t think I’m being completely jaded. I’m just maintaining a level of accountability, that I’m expecting to be discernible to them.

𝙀𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 & 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙨𝙚𝙭𝙮. 𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝙬𝙚𝙖𝙠